Sep 22, 2013

What story are you telling yourself?

What-is has no bearing on what is coming unless you are continually regurgitating the story ofwhat is. By thinking and speaking more of how you really want your life to be, you allow what you are currently living to be the jumping-off place for so much more. But if you speak predominantly of what-is, then you still jump off —but you jump off into more of the same.

---Abraham Hicks

Excerpted from the book - Money and the Law of Attraction

Jun 11, 2013

11 Warning Signs of Depression

Do you (or someone you’re concerned about) really have depression, or is it a case of the blues? It's not always easy to tell the difference, especially when there’s a good reason to feel down. Grief, losing a job, or a chronic illness can all cause behaviors that might be mistaken for depression, for example.

"Sadness is an emotion, whereas depression is an illness," says internist and geriatric psychiatrist Ken Robbins of the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

True clinical depression differs from the blues in two key ways:

May 11, 2013

Lost in The System

10 May 2013 / Posted by cr
By Valena Hamilton Koontz
Valena Large Growing up in foster care from the age of 3 to 17, I don’t know where to start. There were 40 placements, so I was told. I may correct that number later. I can remember everything like it was yesterday; people, names, faces, placements, group homes. I am half Native-American and African-American. I am enrolled in the Omaha Tribe of Nebraska. I also am the youngest of four siblings.
For almost 14 years I was lost. It was a tug of war with the Tribe and the State of Nebraska, and I was the rope. In the late 80′s early 90′s, I don’t think they knew what to do with children that were abused, hurt, alone and lost. By the time I was 8, I was in 12 different homes. Some state and some by the Tribe.
I was never stable. I just got used to hearing, “You’re going to meet a new family today Valena.” So I put on my cute smile and charm, packed my bags and wished to myself this time they would like me or keep me. Not knowing the smile would always fade. I wasn’t getting the right treatment and help to deal with all that I had been through. I was able to create a fake mask that was not me at all. It was just to please everyone. It was like I was on the market.
I was in group homes where I felt like a guinea pig. I lost three years of my life being drugged up on meds to see if they controlled any of my feelings or problems. During the first eight years of my life I met some of my real family. I always remembered times with my grandfather and seeing my mother on short visits. It was good and scary to know where I came from. But what hurt the most was getting close and loving so many people that were ripped from my life. Being hurt and broken all over again made me just shut down. I didn’t care anymore.
To make a long, long story short, I raised myself. I learned to live in the day, in just the moment, because I didn’t know what was going to happen the next day. I became a mother at the age of 14. And had a few more after that that the state took because of my past. I am 30 now, still trying to find my path. But God showed me that everything I’ve been through is for a reason. So I can share and relate and help.
I’ve been down the drug path, living on the streets, was abused every way you can imagine. And I have every story and situation locked in my head and heart. I am writing a book about my tears as a minor. I have the story of every home, person, who, what, where and how…but could never answer why? I am hoping to help and heal other children who are feeling everything I’ve lived and I want them to know you can survive. I love them without knowing them because I know every tear, every fear. I was them at one time. I want to let other younger foster children know don’t give up.
This post first appeared on Fostering Media Connections’ “In My Own Words” blog.
Published on May 10 as part of Children’s Rights 2013 “Fostering the Future” campaign.

Feb 2, 2013

Family Law Basics

           It is difficult to give simple answers to many of the legal questions that a person may have about marriage, parenthood, separation, or divorce, because the laws vary from one state to another. In addition, because so many of the issues before a court require the exercise of judicial discretion, judges applying identical laws may decide cases with similar facts in different ways.
This chapter describes some of the laws and court rulings common to most states. If you have questions or simply want to be sure you understand these basic answers about how the law would be applied to a specific factual situation or in your state, contact a lawyer in your state. You may wish to contact a specialist. Many lawyers in urban areas work only on family law matters or make it a large part of their general practice. Lawyers specializing in family law also may refer to themselves as specialists in "domestic relations" or "matrimonial law."

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